queermarcobodt:

"you’re too young to know what your sexuality is" said the straight person to a queer teenager 

"he’s such a ladies’ man" said the straight person about a 6 month old baby that doesn’t know what a lady is

Day #1: Video chatting with this dude while I made cookies AND a mug cake
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Day #1: Video chatting with this dude while I made cookies AND a mug cake

The Quantum Queer Effect

nextstepcake:

Roughly defined, the Quantum Queer Effect is the process by which, in terms of how they are viewed by outsiders, nonmonosexual individuals exist in an ambiguous state of “kinda queer, kinda not” until they are reduced to “gay” or “straight” by outside observers.

The idea of the quantum queer effect stems from the way that the identities of non-monosexual people (like bisexuals, pansexuals, asexuals, etc.) are often reduced to either “gay” or “straight” by others (usually depending on the gender of their current partner), and the way this affects who is considered “queer” and contributes to the erasure of nonmonosexual identities.

For instance, a bisexual or asexual person may be considered “actually queer” when dating someone of the same gender, yet derided for being “really just straight” if they happen to date someone of a different gender*. But by this logic, a single non-monosexual person then exists in a sort of “quantum queer” state where they are simultaneously both “queer” and “not-queer” (and by the same logic, both privileged and oppressed) at the same time.

To many people, “bisexuality” or “asexuality”, etc. is just too difficult of a concept for them to hold in their heads, so when they encounter it they just try to find ways to split people up into “gay” and “straight” (no matter how little sense that may make). 

(The term quantum refers to the idea in quantum mechanics that at subatomic levels, a systems can exist in a “superposition” of multiple possible states, only to collapse into a single state when “observed “by an outside force - think schrodingers cat.**)

Examples of the quantum queer effect in action include:

  • References to “straight” and “gay” marriage (bisexual people can get married too!)
  • Describing same-gender couples as “gay couples” and different-gender couples as “straight couples” regardless of how each identifies
  • Constructing arguments about how only “some” nonmonosexuals should be allowed in queer spaces.
  • Claims that only nonmonosexuals who actively date same-gender partners can suffer oppression.
  • Claims that nonmonosexual people having straight privilege.
  • erasure of the identities of nonmonosexual people in long term relationships.
  • erasure of the nonmonosexuality of historical figures and modern celebrities.

(* this is without even bringing polyamory into the equation)
(** science followers: please let me know if I got anything wrong here!)

(the inspiration for the concept comes from here: http://nextstepcake.tumblr.com/post/48578050636/next-step-cake-everytime-someone-says-a-variation-on)

Today’s post is in honor of qsaberkeley's nonmonosexuality panel. If you're in the area, you should check it out!)

I’m going to start doing the #100happydays thing.

I want to put it off til tomorrow. But I feel like I should do it NOW.

Is it any wonder I’ve internalized so much shame about being poly when even other queers think it’s the pinnacle of moral depravity?

OMG I HAVE IDEAS AND IM EXCITED

jaxandkai:

Kai:

I have to admit, not much of interest has happened to me in the past week. I’ve mostly been working and trying to keep up on my classes (just one more week of the history one, though, yay). I’ve also been taking extra good care of my mental health by doing lots of self care, meaning a lot of…

tenderheartsclub replied to your photo “NAT. Look how cute we were.”

Omg I can’t even

Such baby queers, right?

It still makes me laugh when I think about that time my dad texted me “i puck u up 430”

katfactorial replied to your photo “Me, in poetry class, sophomore year of high school. Still a qt, still…”

WAIT THAT IS YOU WHAT?

Yup! About four and a half years ago.

NAT. Look how cute we were.
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NAT. Look how cute we were.

stonewallexodus replied to your post: The guy next door to me listens to Nic…

*continues watching teen wolf* *was listening to old malcolm x speeches before* but like idk, i’m not sure nickelback has any real excuse.

We all have our weaknesses but yeah nickelback goes beyond excuse for sure

Me, in poetry class, sophomore year of high school. Still a qt, still wearing the same flannel, still too busy writing to give a fuq. *sashays away*
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Me, in poetry class, sophomore year of high school. Still a qt, still wearing the same flannel, still too busy writing to give a fuq. *sashays away*

The guy next door to me listens to Nickleback but now he’s watching Orange is the New Black and I am so confused?